A friend, by the name of Tracy, did a really kind thing for our family this week when he shared our story with his readers. He, his wife, and his boys have been family friends for a long time. Tracy is currently maintaining two sites, one of which chronicles how he’s lost 110 pounds and has kept it off, with the hopes of encouraging other to do the same.
I know how I feel about divorce; being a child of it has left an indelible mark on me. But, I really enjoyed hearing Tracy’s male perspective on the subject. Check out the post, and if you have the time to follow his further reading links, I highly suggest them. The couple Tracy refers to is making marriage pro-active versus the re-active manner in which we sometimes go about it.
My husband, Ryan, and I are working on being more pro-active. It is a lot of work, some days more than others (just ask him), but I refuse to be normal when it comes to my marriage. Normal in our world tells us that 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce and that subsequent marriages have even less of a chance. Normal in our world tells us that the chance of divorce is not diminished by being a ‘Christian.’
I was recently made aware of something that smashes the above normal statistics. In a sermon entitled Love & Marriage, my minister shared that only 1 in 1150 couples who pray and read their Bibles together will divorce. Now that is more like it!
So, the challenge: take the time to read and pray together, because when it comes down to it, we don’t have the time not to.
2 thoughts on “why be normal?”
Thanks for the links! I appreciate it. Amy and I used to read the Bible and pray together…when we were dating. We use a lot of excuses as to why we don’t do it today, but we really need to get back to it. Funny how I can lose a bunch of weight but when it comes to spiritual discipline…laziness.
I understand what you are saying about one area of your life versus another. We knew that we needed a plan for our finances. When we worked it, it worked. When we didn’t, it failed. I need to view our marriage with the same principles…it requires my daily attention.